Many people are unaware they have it, because they don't experience symptoms or because they attribute the symptoms to something else. Years later, I've come to the realization that he knew he had herpes, and that is the reason he stopped in the midst of our sexual adventure.During an outbreak, blisters or sores appear on or around the genital area. The nurse taught me how to manage the virus, but managing my personal life was another story. Our friendship, unfortunately, ended as quickly as the act.

I knew enough about sexually transmitted diseases to know that I had herpes, but I didn't know exactly what to do.

As I sat in the college health center waiting to see a doctor, I watched my very short-lived social life drift by.

I was still uncomfortable about bringing up the subject, but now I didn't have much of a choice.

I didn't date for awhile, but inevitably, I met someone.

I was thinking that I'd probably never go on another date, or get a boyfriend for that matter, and I'd certainly never have sex again.

The nurse who examined me revealed that she had herpes and said it was no big deal.You have nothing to worry about." I appreciated his honesty and knew I had to tell him that he was the one who had something to worry about. I explained that I had herpes, and that was why I was being so cautious.I told him that to my knowledge I had never spread the virus to anyone else, and that I was very careful.(At the time, many doctors and other health care providers believed this to be the case, although a number of research studies had already suggested otherwise.) So, I decided to keep quiet.For three years, I had a boyfriend who never knew I had herpes.The whole experience made me more comfortable with the fact that I have herpes and gave me the confidence to begin dating again.